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Why talk?

Talking is all to often underestimated as a way to helping our selves when we are having difficulties or experiencing  challenging events in life. I guess this is most likely because we constantly talk and chat all day and every day in many situations. Due to our constant use of talking it’s ability to help us is often overlooked and taken for granted. One of Sigmund Freud’s clients  Anna O’ called psychotherapy the “talking cure”. At the time, for Anna it may have been just that. However in todays society the connectivity that digital devices have created may have contributed to the reduction in importance of talking. This may be due to the ease of connecting and  the twenty four seven connection that has become the norm. The constant connection is often seen as a positive thing and for many it is, but for some it can become a major cause of stress, worry and anxiety that they can’t get away from. The method  of communication has changed vastly which has effected the content that we share. The has happened in a relatively short period of time. Present communication has the ability connect us globally, broadcasting our message to an ever larger audience and yet this in its self facilitates an isolation from the physical world. The physical world is important not only for our physical well-being but also for our mental well-being and this face-to-face relationship is often overlooked when helping to improve psychological well-being.

It can be very difficult for Non-millennial’s those born pre-millennium to understand the issues that are faced by the younger generation because the devices that they have were not in existence when they were growing up. Telling them not to use such devices seems the obvious solution. However doing this would be putting them at a huge disadvantage to their peers. The world is now computerised like it or not it is, and in order to compete in the world with its ever expanding digital capabilities and limitless access to knowledge, it is not only important but a necessity for individuals to feel comfortable, confident in this twenty four, seven connectivity that is now the norm of res all.

Young people today are exposed to much more information and images than ever before and can make them seem older than they really are, but remember they are still trying to make sense of the world around them, developing their thinking. The big thing here is that they often lack the critical mind and thought processes that allow them to recognise when something is not true or incorrect, with no one at hand and a lack of emotion experience and understand a lot can go wrong.


Due to the way we now communicate we often think about exactly what we are actually saying (i.e. content) or the way we saying, this is especially when using text. This unconscious habitual communication can and does lead to difficult situations or misunderstandings and sometimes conflicts. Psychotherapists have been trained to listen and help you understand consciously what is and is not being said, examine the thoughts and feeling that effect the communications facilitating the improvement of them. This makes aspects of the communication become more open, easer and less stressful, improving and promoting better experiences.

By investing in ones own mental and emotional well being, it is a sure fire way to gain a better understanding of ones self and others. This helps to put you in better control of your self in situations that might have been hard to manage previously. There are no quick fixes in regards to therapy nor all their any magic tricks. All that is needed is an open mind and a willingness to allow your-self to experience different and sometime challenging ideas, after all everything that you have thought and done has brought you to where you are right  now. If you want something different than change the way you think and you body and feeling will follow.